My Way Or The Highway

• Oct 28, 2014
• dotty
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• character education, compassion, fear of consequences, heart connection, helicopter parents, kindness, learning, micromanagers, not judging

Helicopter parents and micromanagers at work are not role models for parents who want to model compassion and kindness for children. The helicopter and micromanager send a strong message – perhaps an indirect one: “I do not trust your ability to perform and deliver the results I need.” Fear of consequences is not a positive motivator for kindness and compassion.  Fear of consequences happens whenever:

• Desired results are not clearly stated.
• Unrealistic expectations are the criteria for performance.
• Preventing errors are more important  than learning

A focus on learning rather than judging happens whenever:

• Desired results are clearly stated.
• Educated risks are encouraged.
• Independent decisions are expected.
• Consequences for actions are recognized.

Whenever it is challenging to stand by and see a child struggle to solve a problem, try to release the desire to control and “get it right.”  Instead allow the child the freedom to learn. Your trust will make a heart connection and that is always right!

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